The First Look Debate
One of the most common questions I get asked as a wedding photographer/coordinator is,
“Should we do a first look?”
It’s a big decision and there’s no right answer.
Some couples have dreamed of keeping tradition at the altar. Others want a quieter, more intimate moment.
At the end of the day, you have to do what feels right for you.
As someone who has witnessed/planned tons of weddings, I personally love a first look. If you’re on the fence, let me break it down for you!
Pros:
1. More Time For Photos
A first look gives you the opportunity to get most, if not all, of your portraits done before the ceremony. Giving you more time to party later on.
2. More Time Together
Your wedding day will fly by. With a first look, you get to spend the majority of the day with your partner. This is a chance to soak in all the feels before the day sets off.
3. Less Pressure, Less Performance
Trying to make sure you get your reaction “right” can be a lot of pressure. Maybe you’re somebody that doesn’t want all eyes on you. A first look helps get the jitters out early. It's often one of the most authentic parts of the day.
Cons:
1. Earlier Start Time
Doing a first look means you’ll have to start getting ready earlier. If you’re not a morning person or you have a large bridal party to prep, this could make your morning feel rushed.
2. Tighter Schedule
Adding a first look can require careful timeline planning. You’ll need about 1-2 hours added into your day for the first look and portraits. That being said, a good coordinator or photographer (it’s me, hi!) can help make it flow seamlessly.
I’m not against sticking to tradition! There’s nothing quite like the moment your partner sees you walking towards them. You can enjoy a slower morning and if you’ve always dreamed of that big reveal, embrace it.
However, here are a few things to remember about the aisle moment when making your decision!
1. Depending on your ceremony start time, you may not see your spouse until 3 or 4 PM.
That’s a long day apart!
2. Many couples feel pressure to have the perfect reaction at the altar. Sometimes that emotion flows better in a private setting.
Personally, I’ll always be team first look. I’ve watched couples breathe easer, cry freely and be themselves in those moments.
No matter what you choose, first look or aisle moment, your day will be beautiful and uniquely yours.
If you’re unsure, lets talk through it! I’m not just here to capture your moments, I’m here to help you create a timeline that feels like you.
